WHAT
PURPOSE DOES A VICTIM SERVE TO THE PERPETRATOR?
- To be a caretaker
- Make the perpetrator look legitimate to everyone
- Makes the perpetrator feel powerful because of their control over the victim and because the victim keeps their
secrets and stays in the relationship - For any financial gain they might get from their victim
- So they can be a member of a group (s): social, religious, economic, etc.
- Because they represent something to the perpetrator (familiar – mother/father figure or
a social figure, or because of society saying you must be married or in a
relationship, etc).
DELIBERATE AND PLANNED
Every victim of a personal crime has to face the reality of this: the deliberate and planned violations by their intimate
partner on their personhood, down to the foundation of who they are as an individual. They are assaulted emotionally, spiritually, verbally, and sometimes physically. They are shaken to the very core foundation of everything they thought and knew about themselves. The result is soul trauma. This is a PROCESS and not an event.
The psychological trauma they face can impair their ability to bring charges against a perpetrator and to see the perpetrator for
who he/she really is. Everything they experience and face appears to be stressful. Add to that stress the fear of
retaliation and “silence” along with inability to make good choices is the result.
Society also becomes a partner with the perpetrator through “dissociating” the victim. This is where they “dissociate” the victim
from the human race by seeing the victim as “irritant symbols” who “had it coming” because of not leaving the relationship, keeping secrets, or by blaming – “what did you do to make that happen.” Society also “objectifies” the victim by similar to the perpetrator so they don’t have to do anything about the problem that they find hard to deal with. Then add society’s minimization of the incident by statements of “if it
was really bad she/he would have left.”
Animal rights is still more important in this country than are the
rights of women and children. We have more animal shelters and money for animal shelters than we have for shelters
for women and children. When it comes to shelters for men, there are even less available for male victims. Animals take a precedent over people in the United States.
VICTIM SELECTION
Victims are selected because they crossed paths with the perpetrator and had a symbolic significance or purpose for the perpetrator.
Perpetrators are in neighborhoods, church’s, court rooms, hospitals, political offices, law enforcement and in every country. Their hunting ground is limited only by their own choices.
Educate yourself and protect yourself.
